(Name) is an excellent wife who is the crown of her husband. (Proverbs 12:4)

(Name) is a virtuous wife whose worth is far above rubies. The heart of me, her husband, safely trusts in her; so I have no lack of gain. She does me good and not evil all the days of her life. Strength and honor are her clothing. She rejoices at all times. She opens her mouth with wisdom, and on her tongue is the law of kindness. She watches over my ways and does not eat the bread of idleness. Our children rise up and call her blessed. I call her blessed and praise her continually. — Proverbs 32:10-12, 25-28

(Husband’s name) renders to (wife’s name) the affection due her, and likewise the wife to her husband. –
1 Corinthians 7:3

(Wife’s name) submits to (husband’s name), as to the Lord. For the husband is head of the wife, as also Christ is the head of the church…so let the wives be subject to their own husbands in everything. (Husbands name) loves (wife’s name) just as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself for her, that he might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing by the Word. — Ephesians 5:22-25

By the grace of God, I yield to the constant ministry of transformation by the Holy Spirit. I am being transformed into a gracious woman who retains honor, and a virtuous woman who is a crown to my husband. I purpose to walk wisely that I might build my house. Houses and riches are the inheritance of fathers, and a prudent wife is from the LORD. In Christ I have redemption through His blood, the forgiveness of sins, according to the riches of His grace which He made to abound toward me in all wisdom and prudence. –
2 Corinthians 3:18; Proverbs 11:16; 12:4; 14:1; 19:14; Ephesians 1:7-8

Holy Spirit, I ask You to help me understand and support my husband in ways that show my support for Christ. Teach me to function so that I preserve my own personality while responding to his desires. We are one flesh, and I realize that this unity of persons that preserves individuality is a mystery, but that is how it is when we are united to Christ. So I will keep on loving my husband and let the miracle keep happening. — Ephesians 5:31-33

Just as my husband gives me what is due to me, I seek to be fair to my husband. I share my rights with my husband. 1 Corinthians 7:2-5

Strength and dignity are my clothing and my position in my household is strong. My family is in readiness for the future. The bread of idleness (gossip, discontent, and self-pity) I will not eat. I choose to conduct the affairs of my household wisely realizing that wisdom from above is pure, peaceable, gentle, willing to yield, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality and without hypocrisy. — Proverbs 31:25-27; James 3:17-18

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(MARRIED GUY SPEAKING) When I got home that night, my wife was serving dinner.  I held her hand and said, “I’ve got something to tell you.”  She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.  Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But, I had to let her know what I was thinking. “I want a divorce.”  I raised the topic calmly.  She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, “Why?”  I avoided her question.  This made her angry.  She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, “you are not a man!”

That night, we didn’t talk to each other.  She was weeping.  I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage.  But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer. She had lost my heart to Jane.  I didn’t love her anymore.  I just pitied her!  With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company.  She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces.

The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger.  I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources, and energy, but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly.  Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see.  To me, her cry was actually a kind of release.  The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane.  When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing.  I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.  In the morning she presented her divorce conditions.  She didn’t want anything from me but needed a month’s notice before the divorce.  She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible.  Her reasons were simple.  Our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.  This was agreeable to me.  But she had something more.  She asked me to recall how I had carried her into our bridal room on our wedding day.  She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom, to the front door every morning. I thought she was going crazy.  Just to make our last days together bearable, I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions.  She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd.  “No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce,” she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed so when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, “Daddy is holding mommy in his arms.”  His words brought me a sense of pain.  From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms.  She closed her eyes and said softly, “Don’t tell our son about the divorce. ‘  I nodded, feeling somewhat upset.  I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work.  I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily.  She leaned on my chest.  I could smell the fragrance of her blouse.  I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time.  I realized she was not young any more.  There were fine wrinkles on her face and her hair was graying.  Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning.  This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me.  On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again.  I didn’t tell Jane about this.  It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by.  Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

One morning, she was choosing what to wear.  She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one.  Then she sighed, “all my dresses have grown bigger.”  I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin.  That was the reason why I could carry her more easily.  Suddenly it hit me.  She had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart.  Subconsciously, I reached out and touched her head.  Our son came in at the moment and said, “Dad, it’ s time to carry mom out.”  To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life.  My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly.  I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute.  I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.  But her much lighter weight made me sad.

On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, “I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy.”  I drove to office, jumped out of the car swiftly, without locking the door.  I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind.  I walked upstairs.  Jane opened the door and I said to her, “Sorry Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.”  She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. “Do you have a fever?” She asked.  I moved her hand off my head.  “Sorry Jane,” I said, “I won’t divorce.  My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore.  Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.”  Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears.  I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife.  The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card.  I smiled and wrote, “I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.” That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face. I ran up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed….dead.  My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was too busy with Jane to even notice.  She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from whatever negative reaction it would have on our son, in case we pushed through with the divorce. —At least, in the eyes of our son—-I’m a loving husband.

**THE SMALL DETAILS OF YOUR LIVES ARE WHAT REALLY MATTER IN A RELATIONSHIP. “IT’S NOT” the Mansion or House, the Car, Property, the Money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves. So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy… YOU DON’T REALIZE WHAT YOU HAD UNTIL ITS GONE!!**

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I hope you enjoyed it. Have a blessed day.

These affirmations come from the word of God. God says I’m healthy. I believe God. And that’s that. Here are a few that work for me and they will work for you if you believe.

“By His stripes I AM healed.”

“Thank you Father for this perfect blessing. What I perceive to be a problem and something wrong is an illusion. You and your perfection are the only truth about my body.”

“Because I have made the Lord who is my refuge, even the Most High God, my dwelling place, no evil shall befall me, nor shall any sickness come near my dwelling.”

Remember this, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue.” You get what you say, which is another way of saying, “you reap what you sow.”  Affirming perfect health will reap perfect health…read more healing affirmations

Have a blessed day.

EJ

Taken from the COMPLETE WORKS OF H. EMILIE CADY – Unity House

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